Comments on: Who controls your life? (Chapter 1)

By: Offdraya

Offdraya — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 20:10:52 +0000

My age is 44.

My mother’s ex-boyfriend took it upon himself to raise me when she left him.Much had been left out of my maturing.This is helping immensely!

I am looking forward to the following chapters with great expectancy so I can make much more of my SELF.Keep up the good words!

By: LisaLeeMD

LisaLeeMD — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 01:26:07 +0000

I like the message you are sending out in this chapter. I was thinking about the practice makes perfect part…how about practice makes permanent. Years ago I heard this expression from another coach and I liked the idea that, that is the point to practice and practice until permanent…So “PRACTICE MAKES PERMANENT” makes sense.

By: Cindy

Cindy — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 10:28:05 +0000

I am having so much trouble with motivation in daily life. From cleaning the house to just getting out of the house and keeping appointments. I am hopeful with the advice of chapter one with taking responsibility for myself and my bad choices not to do the things that I should be doing and start getting them done when they need to get them done will help me find my way…… I am just so lost right now. I have been with out motivation for so very long. It is like I find some for a day or two and it is gone again. what can I do to keep it?

By: Oliver J

Oliver J — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 01:04:08 +0000

I’ve read Chapter 1 and wondered for a long time–what is my problem? I can’t seem to finish anything, I always working on something, a new business, a new book, a new self-improvement! Therefore, I am committing myself to this to see if it possible I can change my way of thinking and take full responsiblity for my life.

By: Juan

Juan — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 05:04:23 +0000

many times before i read about ”who will govern your actions” ( not a book ) and i think i still struggle with not letting others affect my decisions on how to react especially under pressure. but i think with your help ( I’m not trying to be a kiss a… ) i can make the true change or switch the ” self empowering/control” on and be able to keep it on with out the need to have a power failer and having to star all over again. maybe I’m exaggerating by explaining it this way or maybe you won’t understand me, but this is what just came out of my mind.
thank you Anth

By: ram odedra

ram odedra — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 17:50:41 +0000

i came to the uk just 3 months ago but for the last 1 month i am feeling so lonely, unhappy and i am totally depressed. i came here for earn money for my family but right i dont know what to do? i missing my mum and also no where any vacanceis, good job so please give me some useful advice and encouragement

By: Shirley Schwaeble-Ruiz

Shirley Schwaeble-Ruiz — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 13:06:47 +0000

Dear Fellow Bloggers, I have learned from my new husband that it is fear that keeps us from making changes little and big in our life. I had to struggle with leaving a husband of 30+ years because of his dependency and neediness was a constant mental, physical and emotional drag in my life. I learned that you must separate yourself and visualize what you need and want from this life or it will pass you by. Choosing my new love and lifepartner, who is a strong take control, decisive man was the best thing and still is. I know I am going to find this website useful for daily living.

By: Noel Allen

Noel Allen — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 18:23:27 +0000

Who Controls? I struggle wanting to do for my current wife but she makes choices that make my life difficult. What I am saying is the Decision to stay or move on, Peace or no peace that is the question and I know it is my decission to control how I response to my life events.

Thanks to all of you who have shared, this really helps me.(my mind is still in frag but I am running the defrag program NOW!) so i can see clearly….

By: Monica

Monica — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 12:18:29 +0000

I have been blaming a person whose selfish decisions lead to a serious of events involving my employment but that was over 2 years ago. Up to a point it was fine to use that as an excuse to not move on but enough is enough. I will never be friends with this person and I suppose I will have to be cordial if our paths cross but I will stop talking badly about him because that gives him power he does not deserve.

He is not controlling whether I move forward - that is in my hands alone.

By: Anth Quinn

Anth Quinn — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 16:25:48 +0000

Hi Sandra,

I guess we’re on the same wavelength on this, check out the blog entry here: http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=49

I agree that exercising the power to choose is an ongoing daily learning, and it’s not always easy. I still find myself “reacting” but now at least I can catch (sometimes not as soon as I’d like) myself and choose a better response.

I often think that as in almost every move to improve your life that it’s important to be kind to yourself. After all none of us is perfect and we have our whole lives to practise. Basically I like to encourage people to just keep working at it and to get curious about how they are creating the things around them with the choices they make.

All the best,

Anth.