Anth Quinn

Have you ever struggled to make breakthroughs in your results, or to maintain motivation and progress on some project or goal?

If so you’re not alone, experience suggests that many many people struggle for years to overcome procrastination, get motivated and take control of their lives.

One of the most common limitations I hear while coaching, is people saying that they just can’t do it on their own.

Can you see how they are holding themselves back?

This is interesting, because I don’t believe this is their limitation at all. Personally I believe that their limitation is that they believe that they should do it on their own!

Clients will sometimes respond with the odd example of people who have succeeded on their own, and for all I know, there may be one or two rich hermits hiding out there.  This doesn’t change the fact that successful people in any field have had help along the way.

In fact when you really begin to dig into this, it soon becomes clear that almost everyone who is really successful is someone who has been able to mobilise lots of people and inspire them to their vision.  

Now you may not want to be a world leader and that’s fine, the important point to grasp here is that the same principles apply in being a parent, teacher, business person or partner.  All success in life comes from working with and sharing with others.

As someone once said: “You can have anything you want in life, if you just help enough people get what they want first”.

This naturally leads on to the other thing that successful people have in common, and that is that people who are successful in the long term are people who see synergistic win: win solutions in all of their interactions.

So next time you find yourself struggling to do something on your own, maybe you can stop for a moment and ask - who do I know that could help me with this?

However, before you get to that point, a really good step would be to begin looking around in life and asking - who do I know that’s struggling and how could I help them?

“OK, this sounds a lot like like happy la la land to me, if I do this won’t people just take me for a ride?” I often hear some people saying when I mention this.

While I agree that if you give, give, give without any thought and action towards your own needs, you may not find yourself achieving much.

But that would be you losing?

Win: win means making sure both of your needs are met.

Also occasionally someone may take advantage of your good nature, that’s just the way the world is and I’d rather be cheated on once or twice that spend my life with a scarcity mentality in eternal suspicion.

As ever in these emails, I don’t ask you to trust anything I say, what I suggest is that you go out and test it, see what happens in your life.

We all know the “Universe” has a way of rewarding action. How do you think you’re life would improve if you looked around in life and made a list of 5 people, who you could help, even in a small way?

Curious?

Why not decide now to take some action and find out?

This email is going out to over 9000 people, so if everyone helped at least 5 people in some way, that would be over 45 000 people getting a little help in life.

A pretty good start to the week when you think about that now, don’t you think?

Bye for now,

Anth.

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