I’m going to check my vocabulary to see if I am still using those words. I’ve tried to stop them long ago but I will pay attention to see if I went back to them or not.

When you delete those words you tend to notice them when others say them. Of course you want to immediately correct their speech but don’t since you might open up something disagreeable.

A dear friend of mine who worked in Biofeedback told me about the “could of”,”would of”, “should of” words and how they set you up for all kinds of troubles. My further reading on the matter explained to me very nicely how easy it is to be frustrated and confused (without your knowing it) because your mind has something pending to do but the body has never actually acted it out. Since the body doesn’t know the difference in “as to when you are thinking of doing something” or “never getting around to doing something” it leaves you in the state of trying to get the thoughts and actions together, but they don’t. Sometimes not now, sometimes not ever. It’s best to leave those words out of our speech.
I hope this helps someone.
God bless you, Anth.

Sharon

This is so very spot on! I have gone through life with so many “shoulds”, “have to” and trying to please eveyone one else that I truly did not have any answer to “I want…” I recently made a radical change in my life and have been called selfish and untrustworthy because I’m not conforming to the “image” of what other people wanted me to be. It’s tough trying to make yourself happy. Thank you